Not making a decision *is* making a decision, which is why habits, default choices, and the status quo are so darn powerful. (Intro, Day 0)
This topic is very dear to me on multiple levels: I hate watching people get hurt by status quos, and complete inaction when the tiniest bit of intervention would improve lives greatly. It also reminds me how easy it was to just keep “not choosing” to make positive changes in my life, out of fear, apprehension, or uncertainty.
Uncertainty sucks, and it’s everywhere. When faced with a difficult decision, it’s easier to not do anything, at least in that moment. And we feel better if something bad happens when we didn’t make any choices.
However, something still happens, whether or not you feel you were involved in the decision. Deferring to people and systems with more expertise in a specific area is frequently correct; but you’re still choosing that deference.
Deferring because you’re confident the default or someone else’s decision is better than the one you could make is good citizenship, good management of uncertainty. Deferring because you don’t want responsibility for the results, when you have knowledge and power to make a decision, is an emotional cop-out.
And copping out is just fine, sometimes. Taking care of yourself and your emotions is extremely important, and we all only have so much capacity. But being aware that is what you’re doing, and that you’re giving up a bit of autonomy, power, and control over your life and actions when you do.